First politics, now sex! When did this get so controversial???
The other day, as I was bored and perusing facebook (ah, the joys of having nothing better to do with my time)...I was clicking here and there and somehow ended up in a group regarding premarital sex and how people were against it (i don't know how i ended up there, you never know where groups are going to take you, and what's with the new facebook stalking? anyway, another topic, i'd cover it some other time if i really cared, but i digress...).
Okay, first off, I'd like to say that I have absolutely NO problem with people who wait. I am not one to say what you can and can not do, and if you choose to wait, more power to you for making a decision and sticking to it. I have no problems with people who choose to wait till marriage to have sex. That said, I'd like to express my disgust and cynicism with the arguments that some people are making for waiting...
That said though, I'd like to state that I have no tolerance for people who think they're better than you because they are waiting. That's bullshit. You make your decisions, I'll make mine. I am not judging you for waiting, don't judge me for not waiting. Saying stuff like "my parents raised me better than that" just sounds like you think you're better than other people. And that attitude will get you nowhere. I'm sure many parents would like to think that, but let's face reality here...
Maybe I'm just cynical and read too far into things, but to me, the following argument actually contradicts pretty much any other arguments: I Don't Want to have Sex before Marriage because I'm afraid that I will compare my husband/wife to my other sexual partners.
This statement is often being said AFTER everyone goes on about religious views and how God says they should wait because sex is a special gift for husband and wife. So maybe I'm just cynical, but if sex is going to be great with your spouse just because they are your spouse, isn't it just a given that your spouse will be better than anyone else you've ever slept with? I mean, if you are supposed to be together, then sex is just going to be great? Apparently, if you have sex with other people, it could possibly be less great because someone else could be better. Which then just contradicts that whole argument, at least in my opinion.
And another argument that I find to be pointless and contradictory...If you were to wait till marriage, you won't know if the wedding sex sucked....WHAT???? Let's just review the other point that has been made...if you're married, shouldn't it be great because you're married (according to the argument made, i don't necessarily agree). I don't even know what to say about that argument...
But yea, I'm just being cynical as always. I don't really have a problem with people who wait. It's their own personal choice and more power to them to sticking to that choice.
I just felt like stirring up controversy tonight, if anyone has any reasons that the aforementioned arguments don't contradict the other reasons, please feel free and share!! :)
- posted by L. @ 12:35 AM